When we experience the trauma of a toxic relationship, we are in a war with terrorists of the heart. The toxic environment of an abusive relationship puts us on red alert. We walk on eggshells, waiting for the next hurtful comment or event to come. This is hypervigilance. It is a normal nervous system reaction to toxic stress and overwhelming events. You can utilise EFT Tapping to help in toxic relationships.

Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT Tapping can be a very effective self-care tool to reduce hypervigilance and support recovery.


Hypervigilance often leads us to feel tense and overwhelmed until we participate in numbing behaviours in order to cope. These might be:

  • Over shopping
  • Endless scrolling
  • Unhealthy/constant sex
  • Sugar/Comfort Food
  • Drugs & alcohol

When we have lived in a hypervigilant state putting the body in a constant fight or flight reaction it takes a huge toll on our body and mind. It is exhausting as our nervous system is on red alert.

Calm your nervous system

This is where Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT tapping (part of the Energy Psychology revolution) is leading the way to health, inner vitality and true transformation. Because EFT combines working with a gentle touch, talk, emotions and thoughts it covers a lot in one session.

It can also be self-applied – you can use it every day yourself.

Three Core Things

EFT tapping does three core things:

  • Helps us transform negative thoughts, emotions & limiting beliefs
  • WHILE calming the body through soothing the nervous system
  • AND EFT helps us clear blocked, stagnant energy

The root of health and the root cause of illness is an energy problem in the body and mind. When we find a way to fix that problem, it will revolutionise health.

The body and mind have the capacity to heal almost anything at any time and we’ve known this for years.

The Physician should look for the force and nature of illness at its source. He is not to look to that which can be seen, for we are not called to extinguish the smoke but the fire itself.” Theophrastus Paracelsus, M.D., Switzerland (1493-1541)

Tap into Health

We are in a revolution to find our best health, as we need more than just talk to find the pathway out of trauma, numbing and hypervigilance. There are rarely neutral bystanders.

If you are in recovery from emotional abuse you will likely be a bruised warrior looking for the path to healing.

What are your choices? Our emotional health care requires a paradigm shift. Until the body is calmed (hypervigilance is relaxed) we will not feel safe enough to release the pain of trapped emotions.

Because EFT calms the nervous system it can help us find safety, quickly and easily.

We can use EFT to calm the body and therefore change our internal pictures, stories and beliefs because (when used properly) it takes it out of hypervigilance, and out of numbness and allow us to hold space for what is difficult and painful.

When we can hold space for ourselves with compassion and understanding we can process the pain of the past with grace and ease and move forward.

To find out more about how you can utilise EFT Tapping to help in toxic relationships, email me at info@katemunden.com

Kate is a trauma and embodiment specialist. She is a TRE & EFT Supervising Mentor and is on the Executive Board of EFT International (formerly AAMET) and is a Comprehensive Energy Psychology Practitioner, DipPsych, Master Hypnotist, Master Practitioner of NLP and Time Line Therapy (accredited by the ABNLP) and has been an intuitive body & energy worker for 30 years. While she works with any problem state she specialises in the sensitive areas of Post Traumatic Stress, emotional abuse, chronic pain and anxiety.