Covert Emotional Abuse
What is covert emotional abuse?
It does not leave any visible bruises or scars. Often it is a confusing, hidden and shameful experience. It can happen to anyone. Covert abusers will often target intelligent, caring, warm hearted individuals who try hard to make relationships work. Victims can have great careers, plenty of friends and a solid income. These may also the people less likely to admit what has happened to them as the shock, confusion and shame is too overwhelming. “How could this happen to me?” In the latest Crime Survey in the UK 83% of partner abuse was not reported to the police. Most people who experience covert abuse do not know what they experiencing, many think it is their fault.
The effects of covert abuse (such as Gaslighting) are often profoundly destructive and can devastate the sense of self, our physical well-being and often result in depression and post traumatic stress symptoms.
I went to see Kate to get some help to understand why I was experiencing some unhelpful and negative feelings and to explore a particularly difficult part of my past that has been haunting me for some years.
This was not an easy thing to do but Kate helped me to feel immediately at ease and I was really pleased at how quickly we started to address some of these issues. She creates a safe and non-judgemental environment and gently asks the right questions so that I was able to unpick and better understand why I was feeling the things I was and to understand them in a different way.
Kate is a trauma and embodiment specialist. She is on the Executive Board of EFT International (formerly AAMET) and is a Supervising Mentor for EFT and TRE Trainees. She is Comprehensive Energy Psychology Practitioner, DipPsych, Master Hypnotist, Master Practitioner of NLP and Time Line Therapy (accredited by the ABNLP) and has been an intuitive body & energy worker for 30 years. While she works with any problem state she specialises in the sensitive areas of Post Traumatic Stress, emotional abuse, chronic pain and anxiety.
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