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What is Narcissistic Abuse?

If you are reading this you have probably experienced narcissist abuse. Narcissistic emotional abuse is real.

Narcissistic abuse is type of emotional abuse.

In the UK, each year a thousand women leaving abusive relationships come to the Mumsnet Relationship Board to find help. This figure has risen by 40% in the last 5 years.

It is often hard to understand, but a narcissistic abuser only cares about themselves and will use manipulation techniques to control or damage their targets. This can be obvious (overt) behaviour or subtle and insidious (covert).

Covert emotional abuse can go on for years and, although more difficult to identify it is just as painful and destructive.

You may have endured highly critical or aggressive behaviour or had your emotions and experiences repeatedly denyed by an abuser (gaslighting) so that you question yourself constantly, lose confidence and feel agitated and fearful.

You may have had your life controlled by intermittent reinforcement or extreme jealously (e.g. monitoring your phone/who you spend time with). In the UK this type of behaviour is called Coercive Control and it is illegal. 

The effects can be devastating to both the mind and body. You may be confused, exhausted, ashamed, heart broken or feel unworthy of love. Or all of those things.

Can emotional abuse cause PTSD?

You may be having devastating physical symptoms e.g. sleep issues, digestion problems, nightmares, feeling out of control, excessive tears, dark, negative thoughts, unexplained pain, deep fatigue and heightened ‘flight’ responses (jumpy and on edge most of the time).

A 2022 Study revealed that “grandiose and vulnerable narcissism were significant predictors of PTSD symptomology for those who had already left the romantic relationship, even when previous abuse, physical abuse, manipulative tactics and abuse frequency were accounted for”  In other words – being in a relationship or leaving a relationshp with a narcissist can cause PTS symptoms.

Trauma Bonding

Trauma bonds refer to the intense emotional connections that form between people who have experienced significant trauma together, often in the context of an abusive or dysfunctional relationship. These bonds are based on a cycle of alternating affection and abuse, in which the abuser may show love and kindness one moment, and then shift to cruelty and manipulation the next.
Trauma bonds are powerful and difficult to break, as they are often fueled by a deep sense of attachment, loyalty, and even gratitude toward the abuser. The victim may also feel a sense of responsibility for the abuser’s well-being, or fear of reprisal if they try to leave the relationship.
Trauma bonds can form in a variety of contexts, including romantic relationships, family dynamics, and even within religious or political groups. They can have serious and long-lasting effects on a person’s mental and emotional well-being, and can make it difficult for them to leave abusive or harmful situations, even when they know it is in their best interest to do so. Therapy and support from loved ones can be crucial in helping individuals break free from trauma bonds and begin to heal from the effects of trauma.

Appointments are available in person at London Harley Street, Kent and Online.

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“I’ve clocked up 50 years of dissociation, depression, anxiety, self-sabotage, and destruction., Now, with Kate, not only do I experience true kindness, trust, humour, the warmest care & acceptance on a regular basis (I mean, the soul food is indescribable), but I also come away with tools, actual tools accessible to me every minute, hour, the day that I can use to ride through bumps, blocks and emotional tsunamis, and still remain in my skin, in the world.

My personal agency increases by the day and new patches of effortless joy can blow me away. Effortless. I mean, I had no idea!

I’m looking forward to the second half of my life knowing I’ve got this. If tomorrow, I meet a trigger then I know what to do to help myself, and I want to do it. That’s where I’m at and that’s huge. Huge. 

Honestly, Kate is just lovely, and so skilled, so kind and whole and true. And I, for one, am incredibly grateful.”

Caroline A

Take a look HERE for more information about trauma and PTS Post Traumatic Stress symptoms. The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Centre is a place where you will be supported and above all – believed. You are not crazy, you did not imagine it and their abusive behaviour is their responsibility.

The Recovery Centre is a place where you can:

  • Be fully supported on your recovery journey
  • Learn about narcissistic abuse tactics
  • Understand the effects of narcissistic abuse
  • Learn effective self-care tools to recover
  • Start to set boundaries
  • Find your inner strength again
  • Create new and empowered relationships
  • Feel safe and trust new people
  • Connect with others who really understand

We are committed to helping others find effective relief from the devastating effects of narcissistic emotional abuse.

As a fellow survivor of emotional abuse, I invite you to connect in this safe space.

Know that you are not alone. You can find joy and strength again. 

Integrated Psychology & EFT

Integrated Energy psychology is a proven mind-body approach to improve how we function.

By working with the whole body-mind system, we can bring about rapid positive change and optimal psychotherapeutic outcomes.  It focuses on the relationship between our mental process, bio-energy systems and neurophysiology for smooth physiological operation.

Integrated EP is polyvagal informed and aligned with the latest findings from neuroscience and traumatology.

TRE® Trauma Release Exercises

TRE® or ‘shaking meditation’ is part of a new wave of embodied healing, self care and deep inner wisdom.

Targets in an abusive relationship will live their lives ‘walking on eggshells’ living  with destructive levels of cortisol which start to break down body mechanisms.

TRE® is a simple process which helps us move out of old contracted patterns in the body and evoke our natural, internal recovery mechanisms which extinguish cortisol.

Every human organism is designed to have a soft, moving, fully feeling body that it feels pleasurable to inhabit. TRE® is a way to find that again.

Emotional Abuse Education

As part of your recovery journey, understanding the common strategies of the manipulative abuse you have endured is important. Often that education is a huge relief “Oh I finally see what was happening, there was nothing I could do other than walk away/maintain boundaries” is an empowered place to stand.

The recovery journey often begins here. Following the despair of discard or the ‘final straw’ some advice and trauma education is often the next step.



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“I went to see Kate to get some help to understand why I was experiencing some unhelpful and negative feelings and to explore a particularly difficult part of my past that has been haunting me for some years.

This was not an easy thing to do but Kate helped me to feel immediately at ease and I was really pleased at how quickly we started to address some of these issues.   She creates a safe and non-judgemental environment and gently asks the right questions so that I was able to unpick and better understand why I was feeling the things I was and to understand them in a different way.

Since I have started working with Kate my understanding and ‘acceptance’ of these feelings has improved as has my levels of confidence and self-respect which was quickly noticed by my friends and colleagues, not just by me!  Kate’s approach is gentle and at the same time firm and focused making sure I was addressing the real issues which were not always what I thought they were.

Most significantly though Kate has helped me to help myself by sharing her experience, expertise and a few super helpful techniques that allow me to stop, reflect, understand and take control when I whenever I need to.”