What is gaslighting? How to spot it happening to you.
So what is Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a specific type of manipulation often used in emotionally abusive relationships to control another person. The manipulator feeds false information trying to get others to question their own reality, memory or perceptions...
What is coercive control?
Coercive control is when a ‘personally connected’ individual in your life (e.g. partner, someone you live with or family member) repeatedly behaves in a way which makes you feel isolated, controlled, dependent or scared. This type of behaviour is often part of...
Trauma Bonds: Breaking the addiction to toxic relationships
What is a trauma bond? It can be very difficult to clear the fog and “wake up” when caught in the web of a toxic relationship. We are wired from childhood to stay connected to those we love. The reason we stay in emotionally abusive relationships is complex and...
You can utilise EFT Tapping to help in toxic relationships.
When we experience the trauma of a toxic relationship, we are in a war with terrorists of the heart. The toxic environment of an abusive relationship puts us on red alert. We walk on eggshells, waiting for the next hurtful comment or event to come. This is...
What is Covert Narcissism?
In general, people who rate highly on the narcissistic spectrum or with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) can be described as grandiose, arrogant and self-absorbed. They typically have an obsession with a grand sense of power and self-worth and exaggerated...
How do I know my partner is a narcissist? 3 Key Narcissist Warning Signs
It’s fairly common to refer to someone as a narcissist in passing if they’re vain, entitled, arrogant or preoccupied with beauty and appearance. But, what should you actually be looking for if you suspect your partner is one? Look for Key Narcissist Warning Signs....
Unhappy in your marriage? It could be covert abuse.
Are you quietly miserable and exhausted in your relationship/marriage? It could be covert abuse. Do you never feel that you are ‘good enough’ or that you can never measure up to the expectations of your partner? Maybe you are never really thin, clever or funny enough?...
Advanced Trauma Release Exercises – More than just stretching…
How you can discover the health benefits of full-body pandiculation - Advanced Trauma Release Exercises Eight years ago when I was first introduced to TRE (Trauma Release Exercises) I was immediately hooked. Feeling the tremors flowing through my body I knew...
What is ‘soft trauma’? – anxiety-based responses.
What is trauma to you? It’s a word that conjures up strong images for most of us. One definition of trauma is that it is a response to anything that overwhelms us. This can cause a variety of anxiety based responses - soft trauma. Anxiety disorders are the most...
A Guide to SSP Safe & Sound Protocol
What is the SSP? If you've experienced trauma, you know first-hand the devastating impact it can have on your life. Trauma can leave wounds that feel too deep to heal, making it difficult to move forward and find peace. But there is hope. The Safe & Sound Protocol...
Why is Gaslighting So Powerful and How it Affects Your Brain
Gaslighting is an insidious and powerful form of manipulation and emotional abuse that can have severe long-lasting effects on your mental health. It effects how you perceive everything in your world and can blind you to other abuse tactics. Although it comes in many...
Can You Co-Parent with a Narcissist?
Is It Actually Possible to Co-Parent with a Narcissist? Co-parenting is difficult. Being a part of a toxic relationship is difficult. Therefore, trying to co-parent with a toxic former partner can be even tougher. When you’re trying to co-parent with a narcissist, the...
Why are narcissistic relationships so addictive?
A partner spends the weekend criticising you, then brings home flowers after work on Monday. Or they ignore you all week, only to compliment your actions on Friday. These are some of the confusing and exhausting techniques used by narcissists to control and manipulate...
SSP Safe and Sound Protocol, Can sound therapy help us in heal trauma?
SSP – Safe and Sound Protocol: Our brains are wired for connection, but, when we’ve experienced trauma our brains re-wire into patterns of protection instead. The nervous system takes over during a traumatic event (or series of events) and it prohibits access to...
PTSD/trauma recovery journey – Learning to Swim, a metaphor.
When we start to attempt to recover from trauma and PTSD we begin to unpack emotions. Thoughts and feelings arise that were too much to deal with at the moment. Often we were too overwhelmed at the time, so, our in-built, knee-jerk safety responses kicked in. These...
You may not need to remember what happened to you!
Tension and trauma aren’t just stored in words and memories. They are also stored in feelings and sensations, therefore, you may not need to remember what happened to you to heal from its effects. When we learn TRE Tension & Trauma Release Exercises, we access an...
Toxic relationships, beliefs that lock in fear
When we experience toxic relationships, whether it is family, friends or an emotionally abusive partner, the toxic nature of emotional abuse causes us to create limiting beliefs about relationships…and the world that we live in. If there has been a smear campaign...
What makes you delicious ‘narcissistic supply?
Falling in love with a narcissist may, at first, feel like a dream come true. Unfortunately, that dream can turn into a painful, confusing nightmare, as you become a 'narcissistic supply'. 'Narcissistic Supply' is a way of describing how narcissistic abusers view...
Triangulation and narcissism, a powerful manipulative tool
Triangulation and narcissism is a powerful toxic behaviour often seen in dysfunctional families, office politics and manipulative romantic relationships. The manipulator will act as a toxic messenger between two people creating damaging misinformation and disharmony....
TRE at home, Shaking at Home to relieve Stress
TRE at home is a self help technique to help you keep your nervous system regulated, lower stress and keep calm. Now, more than ever, we need to access our innate ability to down-regulate our responses to stress. Luckily we have this organic ability built into our...
Intermittent reinforcement: Addiction to the Bread Crumbs of Love
Flowers after the silent treatment. Extravagant gifts after weeks of brutal insults. Crocodile tears after a rage attack. Sudden affection and intimacy after hours of fighting and critical remarks. All these examples highlight an abuse strategy known as intermittent...
TRE Aftercare
The human body often holds deep patterns of tension and stress so that our system is like a fizzed up coke bottle. Ripping the top off the bottle might not be a good idea. Trying to shake out all your stress in one session is unlikely to work and may overwhelm your...
EFT & Finding Your Light (Part 2)
Using EFT to help us make friends with our Shadow and find our Light When I was growing up. I learned that being ‘wasteful’, particularly with food was ‘bad’, and being ‘extravagant’ was frowned upon. My parents had been brought up during the second world war when...
Self Acceptance. EFT & Finding your light (Part 1)
In my experience, self acceptance is one of the most powerful and liberating gifts we can give ourselves. With the overwhelming pressure of modern life increasing, more than ever, we need to find our light. We need enduring strength to help us be resilient and feel...
A new approach to stress. Its always been there…you just haven’t used it yet
Do you find yourself overwhelmed, anxious or stressed by everyday events? You may not realise it but you have the ability to change the way you react to stress, and even trauma, using inbuilt techniques every animal on the planet uses to survive. We often see animals...
Picture Tapping Technique (PTT).
Picture Tapping Technique is a therapeutic intervention which is a fusion of Art Therapy and EFT Emotional Freedom Techniques (tapping) that can bring impressive resolution for hard-to-identify or long-standing emotional issues or addictions. (Read how I finally...
A link between birth trauma and Post Natal Depression PND?
A new study by the University of Kent into the causes of Post Natal Depression has found that women who experience birth complications are 174% more likely to suffer from PND. Approximately 50% of women in the UK experience 'red flag' experiences during childbirth and...
Chakra Clearing for Self Care
How to clear congested energy from the 7 Main Chakras We can use Chakra energy to help us. For self practice "Breathing the Chakras" is a simple and easy to learn technique to clear stagnant or painful memories. Like respiration, think of each Chakra as an accordion...
What do mums say to themselves about childbirth?
Childbirth can be confusing these days. We live in a society, dominated by social media, where we all compare ourselves to unreasonable standards. Its almost impossible not judge ourselves or to try and emulate somebody else's glamorous seeming life...
What is trauma?
Trauma or Post Traumatic Stress (PTS) symptoms are caused by the mind trying to make sense of the story when the body/mind system was overwhelmed. Trauma might be caused by a specific event like a car crash, or by many smaller events eventually building up and...
When your dreams of a natural birth are shattered.
The stories we hear about childbirth, either from family, friends and the media effect how we view giving birth. There are so many conflicting thoughts and ideas, sometimes it hard to know what the ‘real’ truth is. What is birth really going to be like? What is the...
Are you hijacked by emotions? Why we go slowly with TRE.
When we first learn TRE (Trauma Release Exercises) we are often living a life that is full of strong emotions we can't control. Are you hijacked by emotions?TRE is a body based technique that helps us unwind and let go of deep patterns of tension. To begin with...
Postpartum Depression PND
Have I got postpartum depression or is it birth trauma? As many as 3 in 10 mums in the UK may feel they experience postpartum depression. It is important to understand that postpartum depression and birth trauma are two very distinct conditions and are treated...
The Hidden Cost of Birth Trauma
What is the hidden cost of birth trauma? Many women experience frightening and life-threatening experiences giving birth often coupled with a lack of emotional support or any dignity. As one traumatised client told me “No one prepared me that childbirth could be a...
Post Traumatic Stress after childbirth
Three of the key symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress after Childbirth Re-experiencing the event Physical sensations - pain, nausea, sweating Nightmares Flashbacks - involuntarily and vividly re-living what happened during the birth Repetitive and upsetting images or...
Can you recover from birth trauma?
Unfortunately women who suffer birth trauma often find themselves isolated from a helpful support network. They may feel very distant from other new mothers who have had a different or perhaps appear to have had easier birth stories. Sometimes birth trauma...
What is Birth Trauma?
Anyone can experience Birth Trauma and may develop PTS (Post Traumatic Stress) symptoms. Many women will endure the threat of serious injury or death to themselves or their baby during childbirth and PTS symptoms are a very normal response to what has happened. Most...
Birth Trauma
"there is now no doubt that some women develop post-traumatic stress reactions in response to childbirth-related trauma. This is a normal reaction to an extremely horrific event and consists of upsetting and intrusive memories, thoughts and dreams accompanied by...
Psychological Reversal
Psychological Reversal presents a total obstacle to healing an issue or behaviour. If you are caught in a loop of negative behaviour, that never seems to stop, not matter what you do, addressing a Psychological Reversal may help you. The good news is that with some...
Energy Checking – do you have a systemic disturbance?
What is Energy Checking? Think of trying to tune in TV or radio to a specific station, but the antenna can’t pick up the signal and all you get it white noise. In Energy Psychology we use energy checking techniques to 'tune' your system so that you return to harmony,...
Muscle Testing – portal to the unconscious
What we think and feel are only a small part of our total self- awareness and wisdom. The unconscious mind is readily accessible through the body and often the best and only indicator of what is really going on for us. Muscle testing is a collaboration...
The Chakras
The Chakras are major energy centres of the body and a deeper energy system that often hold deeply held, historic patterns. The major Chakras are seven energy centres which align with the spine. The word Chakra means vortex, disc or wheel and they are vortices or...
The Meridians
What are the meridians? In simple terms, they form a system of channels in the body through which ‘qi’ or life force energy moves to nourish and energise the body, mind and spirit. The study of meridians, the most widely used system in Energy Psychology, begins with...
TRE Testimonials
Kate Munden has had some fantastic success with her Trauma Release Exercises workshops so here are Some recent TRE Testimonials "TRE is truly remarkable. I feel different already. My feet feel different, as if they are more 'there' and bodily I feel warmer. Since...
How to stop smoking with PTT
STOP SMOKING WITH PICTURE TAPPING TECHNIQUE Everyone wants to fit in, to be accepted, to be part of the tribe. It’s one of the most natural human instincts. I started smoking when I was sixteen in an attempt to be one of the cool girls. I wanted to appear...
What can EFT do for me?
As EFT is a self help tool you can use it yourself on anything and everything. You can use it for emotional issues or physical issues such as tension and chronic pain. It is easy to learn and apply and you can quickly become your own EFT Practitioner. People can...
Resilience and the benefits of TRE
What are the benefits of TRE? Can it help us cope with life and be more resilient? Often, if trauma is stored in the body it can shut us down and distort our experience of the present. Trauma is anything that overwhelms our system. Humans beings are generally able to...
Panic Attacks
Panic Attacks - The Key to Freedom in 5 Minutes? 7 out of every 1000 people suffer from panic attacks and generalised anxiety affects over 16% of the population. The symptoms can be varied, frightening and extremely distressing to those who suffer from these...
Panic Attacks
5 Minute Panic Release 7 out of every 1000 people suffer from panic attacks, and generalised anxiety effects over 16% of the population. The symptoms can be varied, frightening and extremely distressing to those who suffer from these debilitating events. Using EFT and...
How do I learn the TRE exercises?
When we learn to use the TRE exercises and find our natural tremor, old patterns of tension are released without us having to 'work at it'. This allows the individual to feel, sense and inhabit their body without having to 'think themselves' there. You can 'let go'...
Key Research about Energy Psychology
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