For the most part, the nature of emotional abuse is misunderstood by society, with many (including victims) not really understanding exactly what it is and what is happening to them.
The biggest problem many survivors face is being believed or taken seriously. We often think that everyone argues, worries about their relationships or has problems in life,…right?
It is very common for survivors to have been carefully ‘drip fed’ abuse over many years.
Often targets think that the draining, painful relationship they are experiencing is their fault, that, in fact ‘everything’ is their fault. If only they could just try a little harder to change themselves, then everything would be ok….and the painful cycle continues.
Covert Abuse and Physical Wellbeing
Often targets of this type of abuse are disgnosed with autoimmune dysfunction or chronic pain. This could be attributed to the long term exposure to cortisol and adrenaline in their systems.
When we live life walking on eggshells it takes its toll on our physiology. We don’t run out of cortisol – we just make more of it and the body starts to break down. This causes inflammation, which causes pain or in severe cases immune system dysfunction.
Part of the recovery journey from emotional abuse is nervous system regulation. For more information about how to help the body to become more regulated explore my work with Trauma Release (TRE)